I think the title of my blog (Life and Lyrics) explains this, but I'm one of those people who really listens to the words of songs and I can very easily adapt a lot of songs to my own life. Tonight's entry is kind of personal, but when I listened to this song, these are the thoughts that came to me. (There's a link to the song below if you want to take a listen.)
Sometimes people aren't meant to be together, but it doesn't mean they have to hate each other. Life and people always move forward, but it's impossible to erase love. I think people try to erase it because they're afraid it will contaminate any new relationships they get into, but the love never goes away it just changes. Insecurity probably plays a part too. No one wants their current significant other to be jealous or worried, so they "pretend" like they despise their "ex" and squash any feelings that might remain. I can honestly say I would rather my next relationship be with someone who can admit their true feelings towards people in their past.
My favorite line in the song is "Just because we both know it's over, we can still be friends." I don't love Joe in the man/wife way anymore and I don't want to hang out with him like I hang out with my girlfriends. Too much has happened, too much time has passed, too much has changed us from who we were when we had that kind of love... but that doesn't mean that I can erase the kind of love for him that would make me want to be there for him as a friend if he needed me. God created us to love one another. Why does that have to be so hard for people? Regardless of what we do, God still loves us. He created us in His image, therefore we all have it within us to love each other no matter what. It hurt when our marriage ended and I felt very betrayed, but time passes and time changes the hurt if you let it. A lot of people would say that based on what happened between Joe and I it's ridiculous that I would ever offer to help him or be there for him if he needed me, or even be civil with him for that matter, but who would that hurt more? Holding on to feelings of unforgiveness and resentment can create bitterness and keep you from moving forward and loving someone else whole heartedly.
I haven't written much about the "Live Like You Were Dying" series at church lately, but I've still been thinking about it a lot. We are in our last week and one thing I know for sure is that if my life was down to only days remaining, I wouldn't want to spend one second of it feeling bitter or resentful because I couldn't let go of the past. It's impossible to forget everything that happened, but you have to let it go or else you start to squash that God given ability to feel love for everyone, even those who hurt you. That's one ability that I never want to lose.
Today's Song of the Day
Just Say the Word
Josh Kelley
Here's a link to a video of a LIVE performance of the song...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yrZfDGDy43Y
2 comments:
I've been reading your blog on and off (when I can remember to look!!) and I have to say your last entry was awesome. I couldn't agree with you more and I'm very happy you are at that point. Very good words to live by! Love ya lots, Janelle
Dido - lady! It's totally true! And unless someone has gone thru it and also gone thru the forgiveness process, they just don't understand. Tony will always have a special place in my life, and since I've forgiven him and what happened to us, we've become great parents and, with time, I believe we'll become better friends. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes - we all have to forgive!
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