I was talking to a friend a week or so ago about my level of expectation. We decided that I should work on finding a balance between the worst case scenario and the best case scenario because often times in my head I dream up a beautiful "best case scenario" picture of how things will go and then I'm disappointed when it doesn't happen the way I pictured it. (This is true for me in business, friendships, guys, you name it.) I'm slowly learning the OBVIOUS concept that people can't read my mind. Weird, I know I was shocked too. I think I've watched too many movies over the years and I've convinced myself that these things can actually happen in real life. (Have you seen Sixteen Candles?? Who doesn't want to sit on a table with Jake Ryan and a birthday cake??) I don't want to be one of those people who always expects the worst to happen, but as my friend pointed out, those people are often pleasantly surprised by anything other than catastrophe. Although, if you believe in the Law of Attraction (which I'm not sure whether I do), then those doom and gloom people would often get the bad stuff they were expecting, right?
The whole point of this post is that I've discovered most of life's disappointments come from unmet expectations. If I can keep my expectations somewhere between the best and the worst case and stop creating unrealistic scenarios in my head, I have a better chance of being constantly pleasantly surprised. And constantly pleasantly surprised sounds pretty great to me:)
This is a work in progress.
Today's Song of the Day (From Sixteen Candles)
If You Were Here
Thompson Twins
2 comments:
That's why you just need to live for the days... Make the most of what you have... Let the rest just fall into place.
Just talking about this in my couples bible study and then again in my mom's group today. I think it is something that most women do...have a movie playing in their head of how everything is supposed to go. Like you said, we need to find that balance and not be disappointed when it doesn't happen the way we thought it should.
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